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Poem - A World of Hate, by Janet  
A World of Hate

 

We live in a world of hate

Which leads earth to a humble fate

But I'm saved with a love

The loved promised from above

 

And I know its truth for me

Why cant' you people see

Love is all we need to live

Love is all we need to give

 

You may be a greiver

But just be a believer

He can set you free

Like he did with me

 

So when you think nothings left to live

Just remember he does forgive

So all sins are erased forever

Because I found God and I will let go never
by Janet Hardy

Poem - Death is Nothing at all  

"Death is nothing at all." 
I have only slipped away into the next room.
I am I, and you are  you,
Whatever we were to each other,
that we are still.
Call me  by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always  used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of  solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes  that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of
me, pray
for me.
Let  my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken  without an effort,
Without the ghost of a shadow upon it.
Life  means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There  is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a  negligible accident?
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of  sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
Somewhere very  near,
Just round the corner.
All is well. 
--Henry Scott  Hollad


Poem - The book of Life  

An Angel for the book of life,
Wrote down my baby's birth,
And whispered as she closed the book,
"Too beautiful for earth".
I raised you for a little while,
And watched you beam and grow.
You had a sparkle in your eye,
Ad so much love you showed.
Your energy was boundless,
Your smile was so coy.
You touched everyone you met,
And filled their hearts with joy.
The Angel then reopened the book,
And decided it was time.
They need you now in heaven,
And you will be just fine.
The Lord came down to greet you,
On that dark October morn,
He saved you from the suffering,
and carried to Heaven in His arms.
Your time on earth has finished,
although it was so brief,
You're life will be remembered,
Through the tears of our grief!
The Angels came soon after,
And gathered in your glow.
They sing to you our praises,
You are loved more than we know!


Poem - Of all the friends I've ever met...  

Of all the friends I've ever met,
   You're the one I won't forget.
   And if I die
   Before you do
   I'll go to heaven
   And wait for you
   I'll give the angels
   Back their wings
   And risk the loss
   Of everything
    Just to prove
   My friendship is true
    I'm thankful to have
    Family and Friends like you!


Poem - A Letter to my Family  

A LETTER TO MY FAMILY

To my dearest family,
some things I'd like to say.
But first of all to let you know,
that I arrived okay.

I'm writing this from Heaven,
where I dwell with God above.
Where there are no tears or sadness,
there is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy,
just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you,
every morning, noon, and night.

That day I had to leave you,
when my life on Earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me,
and He said, "I welcome you".
"It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone.

As for your dearest family,
they'll be here later on."
"I need you here so badly,
as part of My big plan.
There's so much that We have to do,
to help our mortal man".

Then God gave me a list of things
He wished for me to do,
and foremost on that list of mine,
is to watch and care for you.
I will be beside you,
every day of the week and year.
And when you're sad,
I'm standing there
to wipe away the tear.

And when you lie in bed at night,
the days chores put to flight,
God and I are closest to you
in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on Earth,
and all those loving years,
because you're only human,
there's bound to be
some tears.

Do not be afraid
      to cry,
it does relieve
some pain.
Remember, there would be no flowers,
without a little rain.

I wish that I could
tell you,
     of all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you,
you would not understand.

One thing is for
certain,
    though my life
on Earth is over,
I am closer to
you now,
      than I ever was before.
And to my many friends,
trust God knows
what is best.

I am not far away
      from you,
I'm just beyond the crest.
There are rocky
roads ahead for you,
       and many hills
that you must climb.

Together we can do it,
taking it one day at a time.
It was my philosophy,
and I'd like for you too,
that is, give unto the World,
so the World
will give to you.

If you can help someone
who's in sorrow or in pain,
then you can say to God at night,
my day was not in vain.

And now I am contented
that my life, it was worthwhile.
Knowing, as I
passed along the way,
I made somebody smile.

When you're walking down the street,
and you've got me on your mind,
I'm walking in your footsteps,
only half a step behind.
And when you feel a gentle breeze
of wind upon your face,
that's me giving you a great big hug,
or just a soft embrace

          Author UnKnown


Poem - Dear Mom  

Dear Mom

I know this is a rough time for you.
So I will be as gentle as I can be.
First of all, thank you for so many tears,
particularly those shared with another that you love.
They are a gift to me, a precious tribute
to your investment in me.
As you do your mourning, do it at your pace only.
Don't let anybody suggest that you do
your grief work on their timetable.

Do whatever it takes to face directly
the reality of what has happened,
even though you may need to pause frequently
and yearn for my return.

Do this with courage and my blessing.
Know that sometimes inertia is the only movement possible. Give your
best to keeping a balance
between remembering me
and renewing your commitments to life.

It's okay with me if you go through minutes, hours
and even days not thinking about me.

I know that you'll never forget.
Loosening me and grabbing hold of a new meaning
is a delicate art.
I am not sure if one comes before the other or not,
maybe it's a combination.

Be with people who accept you as you are.
Mention my name out loud,
and if they don't make a hasty retreat,
they're probably excellent candidates for friendship.

If, by a remote possibility, you think that there is anything
that you could have done for me and didn't.
I forgive you, as our Lord does.
Resentment does not abide here, only love.

You know how people sometimes ask you
how many children you have?
Well, I am still yours and you are still my parents.
Always acknowledge that with tenderness, unless to do so would fall
on insensitive ears or would be painful to you.

I know how you feel inside.
Read, even though your tears anoint the page.
There is an immense library here and I have a card.
In Henri Nowens' "Out of Solitude", he writes,
"The friend who can be silent with us
in a moment of despair and confusion,
who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement,
who can tolerate not healing,
and face with us the reality of our powerlessness,
that is a friend who cares."

Mom, I don't know where you are spiritually now,
but rest assured that our God is not gone.
The still small voice you hear in your heart is His voice.
The warmth that sometimes enfolds you is Him.
The tears that tremble just beneath your heartbeat is Him.
He is in you, as I am.

I want you both to know that I am okay
and I have sent you messages to ease your pain,
they come in the form of flowers that bloom out of season,
birds singing, voices and visions and sometimes through your friends
and even strangers who volunteer as angels.

Stay open but don't expect the overly dramatic.
You will get what you need and it may be simply an internal peace.
You are not crazy, you have been comforted.
Please seek out people bereaved longer than you.
They are tellers of truth, and if they have done their work,
are an inspiration and a beacon of hope
whose pain lessened dramatically
and one more wisdom before we close.

There are still funny happenings in our world.
It delights me to no end when I hear
your spontaneous, uncontrolled laughter.
That, too, will come in due time.
Today, I light a candle for you.
Joined with your candle, let their light shine
above the darkness.

Author Unknown


Poem - Went to a Party  
I went to a party,
And remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom
So I had a sprite instead.

I felt proud of myself,
The way you said I would,
That I didn't drink and drive,
Though some friends said I should.

I made a healthy choice,
And your advice to me was right,
The party finally ended,
And the kids drove out of sight.

I got into my car,
Sure to get home in one piece,
I never knew what was coming, Mom
Something I expected least.

Now I'm lying on the pavement,
And I hear the policeman say,
The kid that caused this wreck was drunk,
Mom, his voice seems far away.

My own blood's all around me,
As I try hard not to cry.
I can hear the paramedic say,
This girl is going to die.

I'm sure the guy had no idea,
While he was flying high,
Because he chose to drink and drive,
Now I would have to die.

So why do people do it, Mom
Knowing that it ruins lives?
And now the pain is cutting me,
Like a hundred stabbing knives.

Tell sister not to be afraid, Mom
Tell daddy to be brave,
And when I go to heaven,
Put Daddy's Girl on my grave.

Someone should have taught him,
That it's wrong to drink and drive.
Maybe if his parents had,
I'd still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter, Mom
I'm getting really scared.
These are my final moments,
And I'm so unprepared.

I wish that you could hold me Mom,
As I lie here and die.
I wish that I could say, "I love you, Mom!"
So I love you and good-bye.


Poem - When tomorrow starts without me  
When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye,
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd say goodbye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.

When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you."
Today for life on earth is past,
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same day
There's no longing for the past.

But you have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things,
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you take my hand
And share my life with me?

So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For everytime you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.


 


Poem - I am with you always.  
To those I love and those who love me
When I am gone, release me, let me go-

I have so many things to see and do.

You musn't tie yourself to me with your tears.

Be happy that we had so many years.

I gave you my love, you can only guess

How much you gave to me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown,

But now it's time I traveled on alone.

So grieve a while for me if grieve you must,

Then let your grief be comforted by my trust.

It's only for a while that we must part,

So bless the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away, for life goes on,

So if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near-

And if you listen with your heart, you'll hear

All of my love around you soft and clear.

And then, you must come this way alone,

I'll greet you with a smile, and "Welcome Home."


Poem - Mommy, please don't cry  

Written by: Linda Deymaz

Mommy,please don't cry..A beautiful angel brought me here.

I met Jesus today, Mommy! He cradled me in His big, strong arms. He mad me feel so happy inside.

Mommy, please don't cry...Heaven is wonderful! Did you know the streets are made of gold? Real gold!

I have lots of friends, Mommy. We run and play, we giggle and laugh. I cant wait to show you my secret hideouts!

Mommy, please don't cry...When I fall it doesn't hurt! There are no tears in heaven.

I've met a man named Noah. He told me about his big boat, all the animals, and the very first rainbow. Have you heard of Noah, Mommy?

 

Mommy, please don’t cry...We have lots of parties here; with streamers and hats, and the best chocolate cake ever!

When it's time to rest, angels tuck us in. I never get scared Mommy, there is no darkness here! Jesus is the light of Heaven.

Mommy, please don't cry... The angels are always singing. I love to sing with the angels! You'd be proud of me, I have a pretty good voice. I must have gotten it from you.

There is a river, Mommy, in the most beautiful garden you could ever imagine...and a huge tree with yummy fruit. The angels call it the tree of Life.

Mommy, it’s so wonderful to be alive in heaven!

 

Mommy, please don’t cry.. sometimes I just like to be by myself. That's when I think of you.

Someday, Mommy, we will hold each other tight! Then you will cradle me in your arms, and stroke my hair...And once again, our hearts will beat together.

Mommy, please don't cry...I'll wait right here for you.   


Poem - Remember Me  
Remember Me  
      by Debbie Ann
 
To the living, I am gone.
To the sorrowful, I will never return,
To the angry, I was cheated.
 
But to the happy, I am at peace.
And to the faithful, I have never left.
 
I cannot speak, but I can listen,
I cannot be seen but I can be heard.
So as you stand upon a shore,
Gazing at the beautiful sea --- Remember me.
 
As you look in awe at a mighty forest
and its grand majesty --- Remember me.
 
As you look upon a flower and admire
its simplicity --- Remember me.
 
Remember me in your heart, your thoughts,
and your memories ---
Of the times we cried, the times we fought,
the times we laughed.
For if you always think of me,
I will never have gone.

Poem - If I Knew  
If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do?"

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,

That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.


Poem - Words from an Angel  

I have not turned my back on you,
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven,
Just beyond the morning sky.
I've seen you almost fall apart,
When you could barely stand.
I asked the Lord to comfort you,
And watched him take your hand.
He told me you are in more pain,
Then I could ever be.
He wiped his eyes and swallowed hard,
Then gave your hand to me.
Although you may not feel my touch,
Or see me by your side,
I've whispered that I love you,
While I wiped each tear you cried.
So please try not to ache for me,
We'll meet again one day,
Beyond the dark and stormy sky,
A Rainbow lights the way.


Poem - I stood by your bed Last night  
I stood by your bed last night,
I came to have a peep.
I could see that you 
were crying,
You found it hard to sleep. 

I spoke to you softly
as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you,
I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here." 
 
I was close to you at breakfast,
I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times,
your hands reached out to me. 
 
I was with you at the shops today,
Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels,
I wish I could do more. 
 
I was with you at my grave today,
You tend it with such care.
I want to reassure you,
that I'm not lying there. 
 
I walked with you towards the house,
as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my hand on you,
I smiled and said "It's me." 
 
You looked so very tired,
and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know,
that I was standing there. 
 
It's possible for me,
to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty,
"I never went away." 
 
You sat there very quietly,
then smiled, I think you knew ...
in the stillness of that evening,
I was very close to you. 
 
The day is over...
I smile and watch you yawning
and say  "Goodnight, God bless,
I'll see you in the morning." 
 
And when the time is right
for you to cross the brief divide, 
I'll rush across to greet you
And we'll stand, side by side. 
 
I have so many things to show you,
there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out ...
then come home to be with me. 
 
Author: Unknown 

Poem - If I Knew  

If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.

There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do?"

But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,

That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear

Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.

My daughter, Janet "Poohbear" Hardy  

My Daughter

Janet Marie Hardy
Born November 2, 1989 at Greater Baltimore Medical Center, Baltimore, Maryland.
Born at 2:50 am, she weighed 9 lb's, 7.2 oz's and was 21" long. The first home that she had was in Bel Air on Redfield Road, it was a two bedroom apartment. Her father is a State Trooper and her mom, me, worked at Pizza Hut as a waitress at the time and has since become a Registered nurse. When Janet was three, she moved into her new home in Conowingo, which would be the home until the end of her life.
When she was four, her father and mother divorced. As a baby, she loved Ernie and Tweety, but eventually, fell in love with Winnie the Pooh. In 1997, her mom took her on her first trip to Walt Disney World with her sister Jessica. Janet was able to return again in 2001 and 2002. We were going to go back in 2004.
Janet attended Conowingo Elementary School, Perryville Middle School and Perryvile High School. She was on the Honor Roll, National Junior Honor Society and a Girl Scout in Troop #512. She also played soccer and she loved the game! Janet's older sister, Jessica, also plays soccer. Janet was a Christian and gave her life to Jesus on June 19, 1996. Her favorite scripture was John 3:16 and John 15:12, "Love one another as I have loved you." This is how she lived her life! Janets favorite color was teal, but she loved blue and yellow also. Her favorite number was 2. She never had a boyfriend and never got to fall in love. She wanted to get married someday and have five children, she even had two names picked out, Kiara and Darren. She was going to graduate High School and go to the University of Maryland and study zoology. She wanted to change the habitats of the wild cats to make them more like thier natural habitat. She had dreams, she had hopes, she had a life to live. She was my daughter, and I still love her!


Saying Goodbye  
Janet Marie Hardy was killed on October 26, 2003, in a crash when a man driving a pick-up truck crossed the center line at Rt. 1 and Rt. 440 and hit the truck that she was a passenger in, head on.  The crash occured at apx. 3:55 am and she was pronounced dead on the scene at apx. 4:05.  Emergency personnel would tell me nearly a year after the crash that Janet had asked for help as she died in the wreckage. 
She was taken from the crash to the Medical Examiners office in Baltimore where her autopsy was performed. Her actual cause of death is listed as multiple injuries. The injuries that probally caused her death was either a ruptured aorta, which is the major blood vessel to her heart, or a broken neck. She was returned to Cecil County on Tuesday, Oct. 28th, and her veiwing was on Wednesday, Oct. 29th. Her viewing held at Hicks Home for Funerals and was attended by more than 1500 people. It began at apx. 3:30 with the last visitor leaving around 9:30. Her funeral was held the following day, on October 30, 2003, at Hicks. Her coffin was light blue and she was wearing her yellow Perryville High School soccer jersey, the Home jersey, her blue soccer shorts with the yellow stripes, her soccer socks, cleats and shin gaurds. Her hair was braided into her adorable pig tails. She also had her gel braclets on her right wrist. She was surrounded by soccer balls and stuffed Winnie the Poohs and Peppermint Patty's. At her funeral, three of her soccer teammates sang "Angel" by Sarah McLaughlin, the Perryville High School Chorus sang and Billy Gilmans song, "My time on Earth" was the last song played. Her mother closed her coffin and was the last person to look upon her and say Good bye. Janets coffin was then signed by family, and she was carried to the hearse by her two uncles, Gary Kelso and Bill Graham, her two coaches, Tim Schmidt and Craig Nething, her moms friend Dan Wilson and her dads friend Adam, a Maryland State Trooper. She was carried through a path of honorary pall bearers made up of classmates and soccer mates. Her funeral procession was escorted by a Maryland State Police motercade which blocked every intersection from Elkton to Colora. Stangers and bystanders parked their cars on the side of the road to honor her and her family and friends as they passed. She was buried at West Nothingham Cemetary, and at her grave site, her friends were allowed to sign her casket as a final farwell. A lone State Trooper played the bag pipes in the distance, once again honoring Janet. Balloons were released by her friends and her mother, to fly away to Heaven, where Janet has already gone!
The world has said Goodbye to you Janet, but Heaven is rejoicing for you have come HOME! You are gone from this Earth, my baby girl, but you are not forgotten. My tears still fall for you!

Her soccer years  

The Soccer Years

1998 - Dublin Darlington Gray Team
Coach - Randy Montgomery
Position - Wing

1999 - Dublin Darlington Dragonflies
Coach - Maggie Low
Position - Defense

2000 - Dublin Darlington United
Coach - Jeff Berthney
Position - Defense

2001 - Perryville Middle School JV Falcons
Coach - Rick Summers
Position - Full back

2001 - Dublin Darlington Lazors
Coach - Jim Bertier
Position - Full back

2002 - Perryville Middle School JV Falcons
Coach - Rick Summers
Position - Full back

2002 - Dublin Darlington Marauders
Coach - Steve Depew
Position - Full back

2002 - Just 4 Kids Marauders (Indoor soccer)
Coach - Steve Depew
Position - Full back

2003 - Just 4 Kids Marauders (Indoor soccer)
Coach - Steve Depew
Position - Full back

2003 - Perryville Middle School Varsity Falcons
Coach - Tim Schmidt
Position - Full back
Undefeated UK Division Champions

2003 - Perryville High School JV Panthers
Coach - Tim Schmidt
Position - Half back
Undefeated Champions

Janet played her last soccer game on October 22, 2003, just four days before her death. She was able to play the last game of the season and complete the undefeated season with her soccer sisters!


Janet Hardy Memorials  
Janet's Legacy will continue through the Janet Hardy Memorial Soccer Games and the Janet Hardy Memorial Scholarship Fund.http://hometown.aol.com/dhrn97/page1.html
MD Remembers Speech - Dec. 9, 2004  
 I’d like to thank you for the opportunity to speak to today.  Though I wish every day that I didn’t have this story to tell, I am compelled to share my story with those who will listen in hopes that someday impaired driving will stop taking the lives of our innocent loved ones.


410 days ago, on
October 26, 2003, my life was changed forever…


We had been at a Halloween party the night before with friends.  Janet’s friend, Samantha, had already asked several girls if they wanted to go to the market in the morning with her and her Grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Gizzi.  The teens didn’t want to go, because it required being up before dawn.  But my Janet volunteered to go because we had been at the orchard earlier that week and Mr. Gizzi allowed her to pick a box of apples for free.  She wanted to give something back for his generosity. 


When she came to me for permission to go, I told her no, because we go to church on Sundays, but my Janet rationalized herself and I eventually gave her permission.  I GAVE    HER PERMISSION.  That is something I have to live with the rest of my life.  So I drove the girls to Samantha’s house to spend the night.  I remember my Janet standing on the stairs and I looked up at her and I said, “I love you Poohbear”, because that is what I called her, my Poohbear.  She looked at me and said, “I love you Mommy”.  I told her I loved her again and she responded, “I love you Mommy.”  I said it one more time, “I love you Poohbear.”  She put her little hands on her hips and said “Mommy, Get out of here.”


That same Saturday night, another person was at a party.  Relatives admit to seeing him drink.  He was allowed to leave that party and he went to a bar where his girlfriend works.  They left the bar in separate cars and drove to get something to eat.  Around
3:30 am on Sunday morning, he decided to drive home.  He didn’t have to be driving either, because his girlfriend was there with him.  She was just one of many people who could have stopped him from driving. 


But she let him drive and at 3:54 am on October 26th, 2003, he crossed the centerline and he murdered Mrs. Gizzi and my child – my innocent Janet.  He also ended his own life. 


Janet was a friend to everyone that met her.  She loved me and her sister, Jessica.  She loved her dad, a Maryland State Trooper in Cecil County.   Janet loved her cat, Rascal.  She was an Honor Roll student with straight A's and wanted to go to college.  She was a Cadette Girl Scout, belonged to the Jr. Nat'l Honor Society and participated in the Challenge Program.  She excelled at everything she did.  She also loved soccer, and played her final game with her undefeated team only three days before the crash.  She was my baby, only 13 years old, and SHE DID NOT HAVE TO DIE!


Impaired driving is preventable.  Our police officers can only do so much towards getting impaired drivers off the roads, but what then?  You can give a person a loaded gun and they wave it around a crowded room and it accidentally goes off, it’s called murder.  But if you give a loaded person a car, and they drive it around on our streets and they kill someone, what do you call that?   


I’d like to thank Governor Ehrlich for making the awareness of impaired driving a priority in Maryland.  Through his leadership, and everyone working together to do their part, hopefully other families will not have suffer as most of us here have.


Let us take this day to remember our loved ones who were so senselessly taken from our lives.  We live with a sorrow that will never go away, with unanswered questions and unfinished dreams.


I know my Janet is watching over me.  She is my inspiration because she never gave up on something she believed in.


My Janet had written me a poem one year for Mother’s Day and it reads,


Mommy, oh Mommy did you know,

I need you more that winter needs snow!

I place you in my special place of my heart,

I know that we will never part!

I love you more than summer loves sun.

I love you pretty much, more than a ton!

You free me from pain,

You make it sunny and stop the rain!

You are in my heart forever,

So we will never part, NEVER!

I’d like to say to my Poohbear,

Right back at ya baby!


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